![]() ![]() ![]() This is usually the portion of the list that causes the most drama. This portion is for all those people you feel obligated to invite, but don’t necessarily want to. Call them the should-invites and put them on the D List. Remember to write down symbolic invites that are on your parents’ behalf. Next, if you have family members that you feel need to be present that aren’t close to you, write them down. Again, star the ones that feel more important than the others (like your work-bestie) so that, if you are able to revisit this list later, you know who you would like to prioritize being there. They will be invited if budget allows or if others can’t make it (maybe in that second round of invites?). They are the people that populate your life, make it fun as you do everyday tasks, but that aren’t crucial to your life. These are close co-workers, lunch buddies, old friends, and plus-ones you don’t know well. If you are ready to bring on the C List, think about the people you enjoy that are in your life today and people that have been in your life in the past, or the would-like-to-invites. Should you move on to considering others, or leave it here? Have a conversation about where you are so far and how many invites you have left. Feel free to star people in the B List that feel like they are almost halfway between A and B so that you can prioritize those people. They don’t have to be there, but it would be really nice if they were! When you complete this list, count up how many people you have in your A and B List combined. This is a list of your wider circle of friends, close extended family, and other family friends that are important to you. Next, work on your would-love-to-invites, or the B List. This is where terrain gets rockier and we start making some trickier decisions. That’s great! You’re done! If not, keep reading. They are automatically on the list! Sometimes this is where people’s guest list ends. Whether that is family, your college roommates, your childhood best friend, or an aunt who is just the best person you have ever met, choose the people that mean the most to you first. They are the people in your life that you hold near and dear. Start with the must-invites, or the A List. Once you have established a goal in line with the type of celebration values you want and your budget, you can start adding names. Most invite lists go up over time, so giving yourself a little wiggle room will be comforting as the date gets closer. I would then create a hard, maximum number based on your budget, but aim for a softer, lower number as you are making your list. See if it works within your budget to create the type of celebration you want. Come up with a number based on your celebration values. That way, you’ll be set up for success.įirst, choose how many people you want to be present. You don’t want those to carry on to the actual day! So, make sure you are in tune with your reactions to the process and communicate those as a couple. The most important thing to remember while creating this list is that if something feels wrong, listen to your gut. In that light, we have created a guide to help you approach this huge task with purpose. This is not the way I want anyone to feel about their wedding invite list. I ended up feeling insecure about it, rather than energized with anticipation. I realized that I entered into it too rushed and too excited rather than with intention and purpose around what makes a gathering, especially such a ceremonious one, special. ![]() While I wouldn’t say the way we created our guest list was wrong, I would say I wish I had taken a more systematic approach so that I felt more confident in my decisions. By the time I had sent out the save the dates, I was overwhelmed by our choices and felt a little stuck. When I did my invite list, I did it quickly and didn’t make time to reflect. ![]()
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